Name : Brad Johns Fibro
Age: 42
Please share your
cystic fibrosis diagnosis (Include age, how you felt at the time of diagnosis,
how was life before and after diagnosis)?
I was diagnosed at 3 months so I have never known what it
was like to be normal.
Once you realized you
had cystic fibrosis did you change anything (did your goals change, views on
life change, did you avoid certain things)?
I don’t think I really understood until I was in high
school. I just thought that it was part of my life. I wasn’t really sick while
I was growing up until I got into high school. I missed over 180 days of school
over the 4 years of high school. My senior year I was told I had contracted
cepacia pseudomonas. I was the 2nd person in the state of
Mississippi to contract cepacia. I still
have it. Currently, I can’t get rid of it. But it doesn’t cause me many problems
fortunately. At that time though I
remember I was very scared. I had a bunch of doctors come in and talked to me
and my family. That had never happened before. They told me that I could not
visit any of the other patients and that I would have to wear gown, mask, and
gloves if I were to leave my room at all times. It was at that point that my
view of life changed forever. Once other CFers found out that I had this stuff
they avoided me like the plague. So my life for the most part has been lived in
isolation from others with CF. It wasn’t until I started trying to find a way
to pay for a doctorate degree that I started seeking out others with CF.
What has been the
biggest challenge for you dealing with cystic fibrosis?
I think it is the mind games that this illness can play on
you. Knowing that you are eventually going to die from this stuff is a hard
pill to swallow. That is why I try to stay on top of things all the time. I
have a wife and 3 children. I want to live as long as I can so that I can
experience as much as possible with them.
Please share with us
any triumphs you have accomplished in the face of cystic fibrosis?
My 3 children (Josh, Justin, and Lyzzie).
Hero of Hope (Genentech Pharmaceuticals)
Star teacher
Teacher of the Year
McLaurin High School Teacher of the Month
Channel 16 (local TV station) Teacher of the Week
Doctorate Degree in Educational Leadership
Appeared on TV and in the newspaper multiple times for CF
and non CF related events
Mississippi College Distinguished Alumnus of the Year (2013)
Writing Team of the 2007 Mississippi Mathematics Framework
Mississippi Professional Educators (MPE) board of directors
Mississippi Council of Teachers of Mathematics (MCTM) board
of directors
Children’s Minister
Appeared through video at the Mississippi CF education day
and spoke about having children through IVF
Outstanding teacher award!!!
Since you have shared
with me that you were able to have children what struggles did you face on this
path?
First the cost is overwhelming. We immediately started
trying to have children once we were married through IVF. It was hard to pay
for all that this entailed and also pay for my CF needs as well. Second, each
time it did not work, the emotions that went along with finding out were really
hard. Finally, I don’t think we knew what we were getting ourselves into when
we found out we were having twins the second time that it worked. It was and
still is hard at times. The first 2 years were the worst. Between taking care
of kids and taking care of myself it was exhausting.
How has becoming a
father shaped your life?
I think many people do not understand that being a father
and having CF is very tough. Please
share any thoughts you have on this topic. (How is treatment time before and
after becoming a father? How did you let your children know about CF? If you
had to give advice to any CFer on becoming a parent what would that be?) It’s still hard at times. Making sure that
everybody is taken care of and providing the finances to make sure that they
have their needs provided for is hard. CF costs for my family have skyrocketed
in the last couple of years. Normal people don’t understand how much our
disease cost. The cost of our disease never goes away. We never catch a break
from the cost. People with other diseases such as Cancer are never sick until
they are diagnosed. My CF costs have always been there and will always be there
until I die.
My treatments are very different now as compared to when we
did not have children. I have to get up much earlier to start treatments.
Treatments start each day for me around 4:15 a.m. each day. I use to be able to
do them as late as 5:30 each day before we had kids. That extra hour of lost
sleep takes its toll on the CF body. Now that my children are in school we have
homework each day which makes the evenings more complicated as well. By the
time we do homework, get everyone fed and bathed, its time for bed so there is
not much time for anything else.
My oldest has known about my disease for several years. My
twins who are 7 know it only in name. When they get to an age where we feel
that they are able to understand we will tell them about it just as we did
Josh.
If I had to give any advice to those seeking to be parents it
would be to find out as much information as you can before starting IVF. When
we started trying through IVF 15 years ago now, there was not much information
out there. We were pioneers back then. I was the first male in the state of
Mississippi with CF to have a child through IVF.
Brad's three children!
Were there things you
wished your parents did differently as you grew up with cystic fibrosis (Example: more freedom to be in charge of
your treatment, speaking at doctor visits,
life pre diagnosis/post diagnosis, not allowing you to do certain things
because of CF)?
No my parents let me lead a normal life. I played football,
baseball, and was in the band in High School.
You have seen a lot
of things as I call you a CF veteran. I
assume you have seen a lot of changes in the early days of CF and where we are
at now. Can you describe what it was
like in the early days of CF and where we are now and where you think CF is
going?
I remember my parents putting me on a table laying upside
down and pounding on me for what seemed like hours everyday when I was little.
I remember my parents putting my pills in a spoonful of applesauce so that I
could swallow them.
These days there are so many advances in medications. It
takes less time to take these drugs and they are more effective than ever
before. I am hoping that during my lifetime we will see a cure for our disease.
This question floats
around a lot. If you could be born
without cystic fibrosis would you? What has CF taught you?
At this time I would have to say no. Having CF has taught me to
rely on my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ for everything. He provides everything
we need. There is not a day that goes by where I don’t constantly have to say
o.k. God how are you going to work this out this time? You have to take care of
this. I am putting my trust in you. I am totally dependent on God for
everything. He provides for us!
I talk with a lot of
newly diagnosed parents to CFers. Many of these parents feel the world is
crashing down on them when they hear the two letters CF. What would you tell a parent who has a newly diagnosed CFer?
I would tell them that it is not the death sentence that it
use to be. We are able to lead fairly normal lives and are able to accomplish
much during our lifetime.
I have found that there are a good amount of CFers who are
worried to tell their boyfriend/girlfriend they have cystic fibrosis. As a CFer who is married what advice would
you give to a CFer who is afraid to disclose they have cystic fibrosis in a
future relationship? I think that it is
important to be upfront with people. I remember telling my girlfriend (later
became my wife) very early in our relationship that I had CF. I thought that if
we were going to get married then she needed to know. I didn’t want her to find
out and then leave because she could not deal with the situation.
What advice would you
give anyone who is battling cystic fibrosis today?
Never give up and never stop taking care of yourself
properly. Always work hard to stay as well as you possibly can.
John's Notes:
I am so glad Brad took the time to give us his perspective when it comes to having CF and also being a parent. I can tell you from my own experience it is VERY TOUGH! The biggest part like Brad said is fitting in the time for you and your CF. Treatment times are all different for me especially on the weekends and evenings. There is NO schedule when you are a parent for your CF. You no longer are selfish on you it's on the family now. That is tough and I know from first hand experience its beyond challenging. As you read, Brad wakes up extra early not to go fishing or hunting but to make sure he is getting in those needed airway treatments. That to me is saying a lot about his commitment to his health and family!!! For all those out there that do not have to wake up an extra hour earlier to start their day just imagine this. This is something that Brad does every day and many of us CFers out there as well. We do this for more tomorrows with our loved ones.
When I read Brad's accomplishments I just cannot even think of the right words to say but CONGRATULATIONS!!! Even people without CF will be jealous of you Brad. I can think of one word that describes you and that is determined. I bet the students you teach are really benefiting from a wonderful teacher and a spirited person. Not only are your students benefiting from your determination but I could imagine that your wife and children are witnessing a wonderful human being day in and day out.
Thanks for sharing your life with us all Brad!! You are a true inspiration to many of us out there battling cystic fibrosis. I know that if you had to run through a wall for CF you would do that. I wish you much more success throughout your life Fibro!!
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